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So, according to Dr. Laura Berman, if you suppress one or more emotions, you suppress them all, since they all come from the same center in the brain. I know I've mentioned that before. I think I'm going somewhere with this...
The five emotions, as described in ysmarko's blog, are: Anger, Hurt, Sadness, Fear, and Joy. I think he was saying that all others are a subset of these. This sounds about right to me, but not being an expert on emotion, I'm willing to take his word for it.
My question is... Why are 4 out of the 5 unpleasant?
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Those categories sound pretty accurate. I prefer to think of things divided into Love or Fear, as most emotions/actions are motivated by one or the other. It feels more balanced divided that way. Now it is up to us as individuals to put the pendulum on the love side...
Unpleasantness drives the human race. When you don't care about things being unpleasant it is the ultimate in despair. It seems fitting that humans are ruled by more unpleasant emotions than pleasant ones. Joy has the power to command and overcome any of the other 4. I don't think there is any other positive emotion humans need.
Love is simply a desire to spread Joy. That's why you can have so many derivatives of Love. I think we have all experienced selfish love, yet it is very difficult to truly love another person.
Think about dealing with kids. So many parents shelter their children in the name of love by protecting them as much as possible from experiencing anything other than joy.
Well, I'm calling bullshit on this one. I have this friend, and she's pretty good at suppressing emotions, except anger which she expresses pretty freely. Her Mother's the same way. Some much for the "suppress one suppress all" theory.
Only 5 emotions ? Is envy an emotion ? If it is, which of the 5 listed does it fall under ?
The Dr you're referencing isn't that idiot radio Dr. Laura I hope........
Not the same Dr. Laura. This one is a sex therapist, actually.
I think there might be a difference between rage and anger. I think your friend might tend more towards rage, but I'm no expert.
Envy? Huh. I have no idea.
Most of my soliloquizing here is uninformed opinion. But thank you for calling my bullshit.
It's not that there are "only" 5 emotions, it is that there are 5 BASIC emotions and each has secondary emotions. I think that if you really look at the root of secondary emotions like envy they inevitably stem from one of these basic ones that Reina mentions.
There are other schools of thoughts on this "basic" list but they all include a basic and secondary list it seems like.
I get the primary secondary thing, I'm having a hard time figuring which is the primary for rage if envy is a secondary. It seems to be an oversimplification to me.
I mentioned to my friend that you think she might tend towards rage and she responded "F&*# you all, at least I show one emotion"! No, she wasn't in a rage. I do think her Mom rages though.
And Dr. Berman's a hottie.
LOL I've never actually seen her (or a picture) but since you said that, I had to look her up! Now I'll forever be thinking of what she looks like when she's talking about sex solutions and sex toys!
I personally think rage is not an emotion, it's a reaction. In my personal experience the more I suppress certain emotions the stronger my reactions to insignificant or trivial circumstances. Also, I think secondary emotions and also reactions come from different places in different people for different reasons.
I can't speak for your friend but having dealt with a person in the past that was prone to fits of rage I tend to think it comes more from Hurt and Fear than Anger or Sadness, to use the emotions that Reina listed.
But I also do not think Love is an emotion and I think most people tend to disagree with me on that one. If you google for "basic emotions" more often than not Love is included.
Yeah, she is hot.
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